If you understand and consistently apply this principle, you will be more successful with women for the rest of your life:
There is never a reason to rush with a woman (even if you’re just going for quick hookups). <==Read 3X…
Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t go “fast.”
In fact, sometimes you should act quickly…
For example, if a woman holds eye contact with you a bit more than normal, you should approach her and start a conversation immediately.
And, if you’re just going for quick hookups, you can take a woman through a step-by-step process in a few hours or even minutes in some circumstances (just follow the steps inside The Good Guy Guide with her at whatever pace she goes with).
So, going fast is not the same as rushing.
And neither is taking action.
Here’s the thing:
Taking action, taking that initial first step forward, demonstrates courage and CONFIDENCE…
Rushing after taking a step forward is inconsistent with being a confident man and it shatters her image of you.
Rushing demonstrates insecurity and a lack of good options and it’s also anti-challenge.
Taking the right actions at the right times shows a woman that you value yourself and that you are a high-value, attractive man…
Rushing proves to her that you don’t value yourself highly enough in comparison to her and that you’re not the attractive man she thought she wanted.
So, taking the right actions at the right times is super ATTRACTIVE while rushing is extremely repellant to a woman even when she had high interest in you before.
And here’s another thing:
Rushing becomes harder to resist the more YOUR interest level in a woman goes up…
And that’s why this is a good indicator of your real value as a potential romantic partner to a woman:
It’s hard to resist when you like her a lot so when you don’t rush she knows you are an internally strong, attractive man.
The kind of man she can’t help but crave.
On the other hand, when you give in to your high interest and start rushing it shows her very clearly that you are unfortunately not this man – you’re just like every other guy she’s already gotten rid of in the past.
So, the more you like a woman, the more important it becomes to not rush with her (even though it’s always important).
And, many times, the more you like a woman the more it works because her subconscious mind knows it’s difficult for men not to rush when they have strong feelings for a woman.
Plus, when it comes to attracting a woman, your interest level is essentially irrelevant; what matters is her romantic interest level in you.
So we don’t do what our own high interest tries to get us to do; we do what raises and then maintains her high interest.
And taking the right actions at the right times raises female interest while rushing lowers female interest.
Most men rush straight into rejection.
What we want to do instead is to take SLOW, MEASURED steps forward with a woman and then pull back, wait, see what’s happening and give it some time and space in-between our forward steps.
And that’s what drives a woman crazy for you in the best possible way:
Leading, taking action, and pushing her away sometimes and being a challenge at the same time.
For example, let’s say you go in for a kiss on your second date with a woman and she gives you a great kiss back…
We don’t just rush in and start taking her top off even if we’re just going for hookups.
We pull back from the kiss first, look into her eyes, and then:
1. Kiss her more if she’s on your couch and you’ve gone through the process inside The Good Guy Guide System with her so she’s comfortable and ready to escalate more and you’re just going for hookups right now…
Take one step forward with her, pull back a bit, wait a bit, and then take the next step forward with her slowly instead of continuously pushing forward. Then repeat.
Keep teasing her and making her want it more and more until she can’t take it anymore.
2. Tell her, “goodnight” =), slowly turn around, and walk away if you walked her to her doorstep and kissed her there if you want a long-term relationship with the right woman for you.
Kiss her again on the next date.
And let her think about the kiss over the course of a few days and anticipate the next one.
That’s how we do it.
And let me tell you one more time:
There is NEVER a reason to rush with a woman…
Let’s say you really like her and she’s leaving for 2 weeks tomorrow but you’ve only been on 2 or 3 dates with her so far.
This is NOT a reason to try to make sure you spend time with her today before she leaves.
Pick it up when she gets back.
Because rushing doesn’t work and it kills female interest.
Now, if SHE makes it a priority to see you before she leaves (or before you go on a trip etc.), then it’s okay and you can hang out with her…
Because rushing is okay for her to do; it’s just not okay for you.
Why?
Because when a super hot, amazing woman thinks it’s urgent to see you it doesn’t turn you off; however, no matter how attractive you are, this same energy turns her off.
Because, again, rushing signals to her that you don’t actually have the attractive male qualities that turn her on while that’s not the case when she acts with urgency toward you.
“She’ll be around…” <==This is the most successful attitude to take with a woman, especially if you really like her.
Now, of course, we can also wait too long or never take action and that also doesn’t work…
It’s just that most men have the opposite problem a lot more:
Once they have even a little bit of a thing going with a woman they start rushing at lightspeed straight toward Rejection City.
This is probably the most common mistake that men make out there when it comes to women.
Around here, we’re different:
We take slow, measured steps forward with a woman AND we are a challenge at the same time AND we never RUSH.
We are never in a hurry even if we are taking decisive actions.
And that’s why women love us so much. =)
So, from now on, when you’re interested in a woman, take the pressure OFF of the situation and focus on the process instead of the outcomes you have in mind.
Take the tension out of yourself and allow it to build up within her.
And take action at the right times without ever rushing.
Here are 3 quick examples to make this principle come to life a bit more and then we’re outta here:
1. After you have a great date with an amazing woman, don’t ask her out again immediately…
Instead, wait 4-9 days after the date and then ask her on the next one.
If you want a woman to fall deeply in love with you instead of losing interest at some point, this is the right speed (not too fast and also not too slow).
Now, if she asks you to meet up before this time window, then you can say yes and meet up with her because it’s okay for her to express urgency with you…
However, from your side, you’re going to ask her out again at the right time; you’re just not going to give up self-control and start RUSHING by doing it too soon.
2. Never be in a hurry to text a woman back…
Sometimes, of course, you can reply essentially immediately if you’re doing something on your phone and you see that she texted you.
We just don’t want her to think that you’re sitting there waiting by your phone for her to text you or that you feel like you have to reply immediately whenever you get a message from her.
And we don’t want to get in a pattern of you always respond right away, after 1 hour, after 3 hours, after 30 minutes, etc.
So make sure you wait a bit before you text a woman back sometimes.
And change it up – sometimes reply sooner, sometimes replay later.
This should be easy if you’re doing a lot of things you love because you won’t always see it right away when she sends you a message; if not find a way to distract yourself or at least chill on thinking you need to reply immediately every time you get a notification that she texted you.
She’ll be around.
3. When she gets upset with you about something, don’t RUSH to resolve it with her immediately…
Let things calm down a bit and then resolve it with her after some time has passed.
If you did something that warrants an apology, apologize sincerely without groveling; if you did nothing wrong stand your ground.
Now, of course, you might need to go to her to resolve this issue relatively quickly depending on the situation; but that doesn’t mean you are RUSHING…
Back up for a minute, assess the situation, and then decide what action(s) to take and when to take them vs. acting solely on the emotion of fear.
Remember:
Taking the right action(s) at the right time is an expression of self-confidence and internal value.
RUSHING is an expression of the fear of losing her.
Always operate out of a sense of security (fake it if you have to – only your ACTIONS and behavior matter); never take actions based on the fear of losing her.
Because internal strength, challenge, preselection, and internal value turn her on…
While actions based on the fear of losing her tell her to turn her love for you OFF.
And, because you are the EMOTIONAL LEADER when it comes to male/female dynamics, when you are internally strong she feels more secure as well.
So, when you really care about a woman and you really like her, it’s critical to NEVER rush with her.
To go deeper into this topic with a few more examples, check out our new YouTube video about it.
If you’re just going for hookups, lead a woman through the steps inside The Good Guy Guide as quickly or slowly as you want without rushing.
And, if you want your ideal woman to fall and stay deeply in love with you forever, lead her through the process inside the Attract and Keep Her System without ever rushing with her.
If you do that, you’ll be golden.
Always remember:
There is NEVER a reason to RUSH with a woman. Ever. Especially when you really like her. =)
Alright sir, that’s it for today…
I’ll be back with more soon.
Until Next Time,
Jim
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